I’m not going to lie, writing this is one of the hardest things I have ever done but I can’t sit back and watch this without saying something.
This week it happened again. An established blogger with a rather large following decided to bring a lesser known blog into the spotlight. Sure this blogger was doing just fine on her own, but our goal is to help each other out right?
No, wait…..
She wasn’t doing her any favors. Instead she was tearing her apart and making her post about something it wasn’t. But she’s okay with it because she brought the blogger traffic, and that’s all bloggers care about right?
WRONG!
It’s not bad enough that we have to worry about our blogs being hacked, or comments being spammed, we have a real predator out there.
OTHER BLOGGERS!
So as it always happens, when the bigger blogger has thousands of readers that worship daily at the blog, she can do no wrong.
Comments read like:
OMG You are practically perfect in every way.
You hit the nail on the head. You are amazing, and I hope I grow up to be just like you.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
If your daughter was getting blasted on facebook by a girl in her school with 100K friends and it was being tweeted about and shared all over the web would that be as OMG worthy?
What is wrong with us? Have we returned to our Roman roots?
Hey, lets throw a couple bloggers in the ring and watch the big nasty lion tear them to shreds.
One word:
DISGUSTING!
I am so sick and tired of seeing the posts and the threads where we talk crap about bloggers all because they put themselves out there…it’s really their own fault right?
Uh, no.
This would never fly if you or your family members were being the ones trashed talked.
Maybe it would be nice to start treating others the way we want to be treated.
I really wonder what these blogger’s parents and children must think of their hate-filled, judgmental posts.
You know what would be amazing? If these blogger started calling out bloggers who are good writers, mothers, philanthropists. Maybe as women we should actually stick together and help each other succeed. Now there’s a thought!
I can see it now… an entire post on how a blogger heard it through the grape vine that Penny Ellington is a home health care nurse, and assists not only the elderly, but even pediatric patients while still maintaining a home, and being a sick (in a good way) blogger. Would you read and tweet that to all your friends?
Are you sick of seeing women treat each other this way? I know I am!
That is all…
Not only am I sick of seeing it, I am building a community of women to stand up and speak out about it. It's called The Mom Pledge. I believe one of your commenters referenced it.
http://themompledge.com
It is NOT OK to behave like this. Couldn't agree more with your post.
Interesting post. Unfortunately, no matter where we go (school, workplace, neighborhood or virtual), there will always be bullies. As they say, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
Seriously where have I been? I haven't heard of this happening until the other day. The site I saw was about stopping bullying between mom bloggers, and I was like WHAT?! I was lost. And then I see this post and I'm even more lost, but mostly weirded out by it. Why is it happening? When did it start happening? What's going through these people's heads? Is it jealousy?
Seriously! Ya know?
It is sad, I have had my kids go through this and it is amazing to me that people will continue to be friends with someone that does this kind of thing.
Something even more sad is when people just snub others, like you don't matter. The important thing really is to say something and do something to make a difference.
What a great post and so true.. thanks for sharing
I just wrote a blog post with examples and what really goes on. Its nasty, but I think if more people came aware of it, when it happens, people would be more willing to tell the mean people to stop. Not hard, the more who do it, the sooner the mean people will stop.
I know this is out there, but it better to just be real and adult about problems and address them, instead of ignoring them. I see some want to talk about this topic, but not really talk about it. Time to talk. http://www.delthedad.com/2011/04/13/tanya-gordon-…
Thanks.
Del
Used my wifes picture cause our email is shared. Can you atleast add Del to the end of that above post if you even decide to approve this.
"Ditto" on Whitney's comment……
It's hard enough putting ourselves out there and to now have to worry that someone else , another blogger could be reading and ready to pounce is going to silence some and that's just SAD.
Thanks for writing this post!
I agree. Chris Brogan likened it to a pot of crabs….instead of helping each other break free, those still in the pot where pulling back down any that were about to make it. Sad.